Being a wife and a mother is no joke. Even though I work full time, I am still in charge for maintaining our little abode clean and organized.
I am not actually up to decluttering my house and I am happy on how I currently manage my space. I also believed that I am a very organized person. I only grabbed this book because my bullet journaling friends had been doing some trackers on their BuJos wherein they are applying the Konmari Method.
What is KonMari Method? (as per website and books)
It consists of gathering together everything you own, one category at a time, and then keeping only those things that “spark joy” (tokimeku in Japanese, literally “flutter, throb, palpitate”), and choosing a place for everything from then on.
The Author? (wiki)
Marie Kondo is a Japanese organizing consultant and author. She has written four books on organizing, which have collectively sold millions of copies and she was listed as one of Time’s “100 most influential people” in 2015.
I have read the book for a month because I made sure I follow the step by step procedures in organizing. Tidying is not really new for me because my mom is a very OC person. She always discards or donates stuff that she finds not necessary. It irritates me sometimes because she is invading my properties too. I never know how much relief it would give our home by freeing the space and letting go of the things we don’t need anymore.
I will list down all the things that made a big mark on me. This is not a summary of the book, but just an overview of the ideas that struck me.
1. Not by portion, but by category.
This is the number one mistake I have been doing for years-fixing by room or by house part. It may look clean for now, but everything will be a mess in no time. As per Kondo, the best way is gathering all your items per category and start discarding it that way. You may be surprised on how much stuff you own just by laying them all flat on the floor.
2. Does it spark joy?
This might take time, but this is a very effective technique. During the discarding process, take each item on your hand and ask yourself if it brings you happiness. If not, there is no point in keeping it.
3. Don’t discard in front of your family.
If it’s my mom, I have no problem. She will be even happy seeing me discarding too much stuff. I find this challenging when I started sorting out my clothes in front of my husband. After looking on the pile that I didn’t want to keep, he started picking them up one by one and asking me questions like “You just bought this 2 months ago, why throw it away?”, “This used to be your favorite”, “If you will throw this then you don’t have a green jacket anymore”. And then I felt guilty. But then again, it should not hinder your decision. So never ever do a major discarding in front of anyone as it may affect your judgment.
4. What you wear in the house impacts your self-image.
Never knew house clothes are also important! I never really a lot much on the things I wear at home. I started buying a couple of super comfy house dresses and I love wearing them and it made me happier while at home.
5. Role of the item.
There are three things why we keep stuff. It is either it holds something special from our past, it is being needed in the present or it is something that you will want to use in the future. As per Kondo, we need to know the purpose of each item that we own so we can sort them properly. But still, the number one rule still applies. If it does not spark joy, you don’t need it in your life.
6. Hand-me-downs is not a good idea.
I have a younger cousin who lives with our family back then. All the clothes and things that I don’t really want but is guilty of discarding, I gave it all to her. I was in the notion that this will save me from the guilt of throwing, because that way I even helped another person. I was wrong. She only picked 2-3 things that she wanted and just buried the rest on her closet. The point is, I just added burden and clutter to somebody else’s life- not considering their own decisions.
For storage I remembered three important things: store items vertically, store all items of the same type in the same place and don’t scatter storage. Pretty self-explanatory but has a great impact on how you look on keeping your items effeciently.
8. Do not hoard, even items that are on sale!
Two points, it will require you more storage and it might lessen the quality of the product (expiration dates!) over time.
9. Better judgement.
By deciding on each very item you own, you will soon improve your decision making skills. It will not be so hard for you to know what you want in your life. You will also learn how to let go of the past and be more excited for your future.
10. Thank your items.
There is a very good story of how Kondo thanked her old cellphone in the book. But the lesson here is to appreciate everything that you have. Thank your items for being at your disposal and providing you their service. This will not only made them shine, but you will feel that they respond to you in a way.
Overall, I truly suggest reading this book. There are a lot of amazing stories from Kondo’s previous clients that can inspire or we can all relate too. And let’s all remember, that tidying is not a task but it is a sacred act we do for the betterment of ourselves.
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